When it comes to planning a wedding, brides and grooms are bombarded with images of what makes a perfect day. It can be hard to decipher what wedding day purchases will make an impact, and what will go unnoticed. MoneyTalk Life asked those who have already tied the knot about what their money was best spent on, and what they could have done without.
Weddings are big business. We are programmed by fairy tales and Hollywood to believe a wedding day is the most important day of your life; if it’s not perfect, you may face a lifetime of regret. Because that has been burned into our psyche, weddings now have grown into a multi-billion dollar industry in Canada.
While couples can certainly choose to get married for just the cost of a marriage license, the chamber rental at City Hall, and some gas money to get there, the average Canadian wedding now costs tens of thousands of dollars. Whether you are planning a lavish do or something a little more simple and intimate, we’ve asked some brides and grooms about where to spend your money, and where to scrimp.
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Venue & Decor
"No one noticed that we bought the fancy champagne for the toast, or that we paid more for the artisanal bread," recalls recent bride Katelyn Di Giulio, who got married at a luxury hotel in downtown Toronto.
Photography & Videography
"Splurging on having two photographers was such a great choice," she confirms. "We had so many moments captured, even ones that we missed out on because we were off doing other things." Hire a professional (so, not Uncle Joe with his smartphone), who shoots in a style you like, has professional equipment, and has good reviews or references. A photographer who is amazing with candid shots will help you to remember the key moments of the day.
Food
Groom Robert Petrilli, going on his three-year anniversary, says he regrets paying for a premium bar that had fancier beer and liquor. "Our guests were not picky about what the bar was stocked with," he relays. "People are going to drink whatever is there." But even without premium alcohol, you can still have a mixologist or bartender develop a delicious cocktail or mocktail named after the lovely couple.
Music
The last thing you want is the slow father-daughter song playing as you line dance into the reception with your wedding party.
Planner
And some may not advertise this, but many can be booked for just a day. Bride Amanda hired one to be her on-site coordinator for the day, and said that it was worth every penny. If you want someone on site just putting out fires, it might be an expense worth forking out for. It can give you peace of mind, and you can relax a little more, and enjoy the day, your guests and each other.
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Wedding Favours
Something simple and edible is a good choice, as people often balk at knick-knacks that clutter up a home, or don't fit their taste. Also in this category are specially-printed or embroidered, bride and groom t-shirts, robes, and other clothing items. It might make for fun social media posts, but the "likes" may not be worth the money.
Flowers & Centrepieces
But whatever you do, you may not want to DIY your arrangements, if you're using real flowers. Your arrangements will need to be done the day before your wedding, and trust us, with all the other things that need to be done during this time, a florist can be your best bet to get this done for you.
Invitations
"I made fun, unique videos for all of those things and emailed them," she says. She even did personalized thank-yous to each guest. "Thank yous took a lot of time, so I didn’t save on my own time, but still worth it." She admits she got some push back from parents and her husband, but in the end, everyone thought it was great and personal.
Cake
Usually a lot ends up left on the table and in your freezer. Display cakes are a great way to have your cake and eat it too. Have a cake for show, and a slab in the back for cutting and serving. Buttercream is less expensive than fondant, or skip the cake altogether and just go for an expansive dessert table with something for everyone.
Dress & Tuxedos
"My dress would be considered a 'splurge' by my standard of regular clothing costs but not by wedding costs," she says. Instead of renting a tuxedo, you may want to be practical and buy a well-tailored suit that can be worn again. Some interesting alternatives to wedding salons exist, like organizations where brides donate their gowns to be sold, and their proceeds are donated to charity. Some brides report getting designer gowns for a fraction of the price this way.
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Of course if you’ve dreamed of an elaborate wedding cake since childhood, then by all means splurge responsibly. “A great wedding day is one that fulfills your dreams, whatever it may be,” says Elena Rizzuto, Regional Vice President of Financial Planning at TD Wealth. “But you should be realistic about what you can afford, what is flexible and what is very important to you and your partner. Arriving in a helicopter might be nice, but if it’s not the most important part of your day, it might be more financially reasonable for you to get there in a really nice limo or even a luxury bus.”
Rizzuto says that saving is the key. “Consider establishing a budget, and then put money aside every month during your engagement to finance the celebration. A TFSA may be a way to invest that money tax-free in the short-term,” she says.
The couples we talked to routinely went over-budget on events surrounding the big day, like bachelorettes, showers, and rehearsal dinners. Rizzuto reminds couples to factor in everything, even if it seems peripheral, and work with a financial professional to determine your goals, a realistic budget, and to keep you on track leading up to your big day, and onto your life together. “Your wedding can be a significant and memorable start to a great life together,” she says. “When the excitement from the big day has died down, it can be a good time to continue talking about new goals and finances, like starting a new family, or buying a home.”
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